The Trouble with Limitless Possibilities

Disclaimer: Deeply Personal “Dr. Ben” Post. You’ve Been Warned.

4 Months…..

4 months is the difference between “who I was” and “who I am” today. Keep in mind that 26 years played a big part in the last 4 months….but there is no doubt that  something special is going on in my life that I have no ability to explain and it all started 4 months ago. I’m not writing to brag (I hope this doesn’t come off this way…because its the exact opposite), I’m writing to try to make sense of all of this.

I look around at the amazing thing that’s going on around me….. and I want you to know how it started…

It came from a really dark place.  6 months ago I was extremely unhappy. I was the same person that I am today, but I let someone in my life make me call into question what I was capable of.  I allowed someone to insert doubt into my life. There was that….and there was the baby. My wife and I had been trying to get pregnant for the past year and all of a sudden it happened. But then, something went horribly wrong. One night my wife said that she didn’t feel right and a “hospital trip” later, we found out that we had lost the baby.

After recovering from all of that….something just exploded inside me…

After that….nothing seemed insurmountable….and that brings me to the topic of this whole post.

When you decide that nothing can stop you…..then there is only one thing out there that can stop you……..and that’s yourself…

But you see…..there is a trouble with limitless possibilities….. and that trouble is that every now and then, you’re going to overstep a line or two (because who the hell is going to stop someone who doesn’t believe they can be held back)… So what do you do when you do that?

I think that you take a step back and take a look in the mirror… and ask yourself…. “is this going to be what defines me, or is this just a wrong turn that I took?”.

The point of this is: Failure is an event, Not a Person……Realize that and even when you fall down, you realize that no one event can really destroy who you really are, no one event can shake your core, as long as you learn something from that failure.

Life is a collection of moments….all we can do is  our best to collect more wins than losses.